3 Ways To Avoid Bitterness During Your Job Search

While most careerists face bouts of anger or bitterness at different times, they ultimately realize that neutralizing those feelings is necessary in order to move ahead, be productive, find calm – even laugh and experience joy.

For some, bitterness emanates from a bad experience with a current or past boss. Maybe he or she didn’t respect your talent or time and didn’t value you enough to promote you, pay you what you deserve or offer kudos for a job well done.

For others, the bitterness arises from resentment that you aren’t climbing the career ladder as quickly as your colleagues, friends or family members. Or, you may feel are giving up your life – even your health – for an overly demanding company and for no real return.

Moreover, you may be waylaid by bitterness stemming from personal issues such as divorce or financial struggles that in turn disrupt you day-to-day ability to function well at work, and everywhere else.

If you find yourself stuck in such a negativity vortex, immediate action may be needed. Steps you can take today will help you reinvent yourself to become a more positive, optimistic and hopeful person, almost immediately. With positivity, comes action and with action, traction, leading to problem solving that will eventually shrink (or even dissolve) the cluster of negativity. It can even open up the door to a brighter view of life.

Here are three tips:

1. Read a motivational book. Television celebrity Steve Harvey’s book, Act Like a Success, asserts that every person has a gift, and you should discover yours in order to fulfill your purpose. Harvey’s book is an easy, idea-rich, actionable read that can promptly get you on the path back to hope if you are stumbling along a dark, endless highway. Nourish Your Career, as well as dozens of other books also can be found online and at your local library to help you reenergize.

2. Go have fun. Sounds easy enough, but it can be one of the most abused strategies if not done well. Be careful not to sabotage that time with a whine session; i.e., you schedule lunch with your softhearted friend only to spend the next two hours dumping your woes and worries on her. She leaves ragged – you leave feeling even more immersed in your cesspool of angst.

Instead, challenge yourself to practice positivity. Choose an inspiringly decorated venue with a delightful menu to stimulate your senses, and look for the goodness in your life. Take the time to ask your friend how she is doing; inquire about her family, her pastimes and things that make her heart sing. Soon, you may feel your mood lift and your hope begin to resurface.

3. Take a risk. Whether you are risk-averse or an adrenaline junkie, taking a risk can help you get unstuck. It may be as simple as applying for that job you’ve been afraid to, breaking through the paralysis of negativity. The worst that can happen is you don’t get the interview. However, you just might get that call. Or by applying to one role, you may find it easier to apply to the next, and then the next, and so on.

Another way to take a risk is to attend an industry function that could land you in the thick of relevant career-boosting conversations. Afraid? Then prepare.

Call or email someone who you know who will be attending and gather intel about the event, the individuals attending and the protocol. Research a few attendees online – use LinkedIn to find out about them individually and Glassdoor to research their companies. Get some information at-the-ready that you may then use in conversation. Grease the interaction wheel.

You might just find your mood lifting from the moment you walk through the door and become engaged with another, forward-looking careerist.